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We Did Not Like The LEGO Movie

February 17, 2014 by Tracy 40 Comments

I took my kids to see the new LEGO movie today. We went in with an open mind and not a disdain for all things Lego. We own LEGOs. We play with LEGOs. We don’t worship the LEGO like we might some other toys. But a LEGO-liking-family we are.

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My only bias to watching the LEGO movie is that I’m not a huge fan of kid movies in general. I might also fall asleep in most of them…BUT…if my kids loved or even liked the movie ..then it was still a good movie in my opinion…because my kids enjoyed it. And I fake it for them.

I mean, have you seen Free Birds? One of the worst movies of the century. But my kids found it funny and enjoyed themselves, so I pretended that I did not sleep and totally enjoyed myself too. Do NOT go see it though. OMG so bad.

But the LEGO movie disappointed all of us. I mean – I loved the positive messages of believing in yourself and everyone has a special gift and everyone plays differently and all the good stuff we teach our kids – and I kind of liked when it all came together FINALLY with the actual real dad letting his real kids PLAY. Got it. Good.

But oh my gosh – the 90 minutes before that were so dang boring. Eloise was asking to leave. Astrid fell asleep. And Esther was people watching. I nodded off a few times, but tried to keep it together to actually watch the whole show. And I also noticed that most adults were not laughing out loud during the scenes that I thought were actually kind of clever.

Here’s the thing though – I am glad that you and you and you and you enjoyed the LEGO movie. Because the majority of the population seemed to love it. Awesome. But people seem to have a major emotional attachment to this movie, and saying that you don’t love it is like getting into a debate about SAHMs vs WAHMs or breast vs bottle. Chill people.

Speaking of chilling…..We loved Frozen – BECAUSE OLAF. But I get that it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. And I would never question why you didn’t like it or how you could not appreciate the message. Cool. Not frozen – just cool. Just don’t come over to our house because the snowman building is rampant around here.

And I loved the movie Brave – but my kids hated it. HATED it. I will never understand them. And I will probably never understand kid movies. I will never understand kids.

Another one you may not believe – but none of us liked any of the Toy Story movies. None of them. None of us. WHO ARE WE?

But Smurfs?? BIG FANS! Don’t hate me for it. Maybe it was because Smurfs 2 was set in Paris. Paris.

So dish – what kid movie do you love the most? Do you have a kid movie that your kids loved but you hated? Or maybe a kid movie that you loved and your kids wonder why you keep watching because they did not love it?

Doing As Little As Possible

January 18, 2014 by Tracy 14 Comments

I had my pajamas on before 3pm yesterday. There aren’t many days that I feel just ‘done’ but yesterday it felt good just to give in to the comfort of fleece pants, fuzzy slippers and bad TV.

The big girls were off skiing with Jed while I stayed home with an Astrid who decided that it was too cold for her. My first thought was that we ‘had’ to find something active to do – whether physical or intellectual – because we MUST as we skipped skiing.

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Instead we watched some brain-numbing cartoons, ate cereal for dinner, had jammies on by 3pm, and snuggled for hours.

None of it active, none of it intellectual, but all of it meaningful. And simple. And together. We try to communicate the beautiful, simple and small things with our children – sometimes we need to remember that simple is best for us too. I admit that sometimes I hate the question “So what did you do today?” Because sometimes the right answer really is “As little as humanly possible.”

I can be busy tomorrow.

And when Astrid went off to bed by 7:30 and my plan was two hours of peace to write – I instead poured a cup of tea, layered on three blankets over me, ignored my laptop, and watched an incredibly lame chick flick. It was truly the best therapy of the week.

I also had a cat on my lap and ate a WHOLE DARK CHOCOLATE BAR THAT I DID NOT HAVE TO SHARE.

(and my friend Ann reminded me of one of the best Everybody Loves Raymond episodes of all time – the PMS episode – drop what you are doing HUSBANDS and watch this. Best 20 minutes you’ll spend this month…)

I bought a 2014 calendar finally. Also, they are ON SALE when we buy them so late. A little money saving tip for you – procrastinate calendar buying and save $10 or so – I mean sure you might miss a few critical early January appointments – but $10 off people! Of course you could be all savvy and just use your iPhone as your calendar – but I am 45 going on 95.

I was planning to make a hair appointment now that I have a calendar. I do need to get in there over the next few weeks – because THE GRAY OF 45 – but I’d rather fold laundry and clean-up Play-Doh than sit in a salon chair at this point. Am I the only one who views a salon appointment as NOT relaxing – but as stressful and work..mainly because schedules and time.

And then I will spend hours filling in the kid schedules – dance, school, appointments, and critical due dates. Sometimes I wonder if our lives will change and get so big that we will need one of those HUGE WALL FAMILY calendars that take up the whole kitchen wall. And then I’m grateful we don’t have a kitchen big enough for big walls. Because a big calendar would not make me happy.

We have nothing big planned for this holiday weekend. Esther heads to a hockey game with my dad tonight, Eloise is getting together with a friend to finish a school project, and tomorrow we are bowling with some of my favorite people on the planet.

This light schedule makes me very, very happy – as I still sit here very late into the morning hours in my fleece pajama bottoms.

What do you have planned for this weekend? And are you a ‘digital calendar’ person or ‘paper’ calendar person?

Back In The Saddle

January 13, 2014 by Tracy 24 Comments

I haven’t skied since before I was pregnant with Eloise. In case math is not your forte – that is 12 winters ago. And it makes me want to hang my head in shame in front of my proud skiing friends.

I learned to ski when I was five. And while I did not ski a ton – growing up in Indiana did not help my cause- I did ski at least every year. My dad lived in Montana since I was about 14, I would also ski while on trips to visit family in Minnesota, and on spring breaks trips to Colorado during school.

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Jed is an amazing skier and we took ski trips together each year from the time we met until children entered our lives. And we did take one trip to Colorado skiing five years ago with Esther and Eloise. But I was pregnant again and chose not to ski.

So in the basement for 12 years, my skis and poles and boots and 1989 ski jacket that should really never see the light of day again, have collected dust.

And I’ve been okay with that.

There are many things we do as a family that have taken priority with our time and our money.

And I don’t consider my children as the reason we gave up skiing. I consider it just a coincidence of priorities.(And maybe because my dad moved back here from Montana). And honestly I don’t think I’ve given up anything for motherhood. I’ve only gained more while some things may get pushed to the wayside to be brought forth again for us to enjoy. After we blow off the dust.

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So skiing.

While my friends out west may think our Minnesota “mountains” as small(they are) – well they are just perfect and HERE, and our fair state delivers many Olympic champions.

And as of last week we now have all three kids up a skis. I’ve forgotten how fearless a four year old can be as they fly down the hill when they don’t have far to fall, and how joyful it is for an eight year old(who skied all last year too), that I now don’t even see during the evening as she’s off with friends, and how nice it is for a tentative 11 year old who finally finds her rhythm and lets herself relax and actually enjoys herself.

And now back to that mom with the dusty skis and out of fashion jacket – well she’s getting back on the hill too. She has three kids to show-up on the slopes you know, so she needs to get out there and practice.

Because she’s finally cannot use pregnancy as an excuse.

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Do you have an activity you feel you’ve given up for motherhood?

Cold Weather Day Fun

January 6, 2014 by Tracy 16 Comments

Schools are closed today. Not for snow, but for cold. We had -45 wind chills this morning with actual temps of -22. I went for a four mile run and actually felt a bit overdressed. One layer too many – but it was good to be warm and safe and I take preparation for any cold weather run very seriously.

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I also welcome concerned, adult, encouraging, kind and even humorous conversations about crazy cold weather running on social media. But some people like to throw around the word ‘stupid’ instead. Because that’s now how I guess people constructively talk to other people in 2014. Attacking strangers on social media is the new fashion of the season. YAY us!

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Which makes me sad for all of humanity. Also now I feel obligated to contact the internets to make sure I’m dressing my kids appropriately when I let them go outside in this cold. Because we did go outside. I have so much guilt.

So to get over my awesome berating on the twitter this morning, we decided to do a cold winter weather science experiment. We boiled water and threw it into the air to see if it really does just freeze immediately into little ice crystals and vaporize. And it does! So cool! (Please note for all of you worried internet people – I did this experiment before my daughter did it just to make sure it really worked so I did not feel like I was putting her at risk that boiling water would rain down on her panda hat cuteness…so please don’t call me icky internet words).

Then we went to see Disney’s Frozen again and now are even more obsessed with Olaf The Snowman.

Then we had donuts.

Now we are eating popcorn and drinking hot cocoa.

All the good things you are suppose to do when school is called off.

However, now school is also called off for tomorrow. One day off is fun, two days off calls for an emergency plan to keep the kids entertained without donuts and cocoa. Maybe I’ll just go for a long run in the frigid temps and think about some fun things we can do as a family.

So do you love when school is called off? What is your favorite activity for kids on a day off from school?

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I’m also honored and crazy excited that my post On Being Vulnerable is syndicated on BlogHer today!

Staying Warm #AskWisestKid

January 2, 2014 by Tracy 2 Comments

It’s supposed to get down to -16 tonight. In case you are wondering what running looks like after running in below zero temps…it looks like this…

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Also, I borrowed my daughter’s face mask as mine was still frozen from yesterday.

And I dare say that I don’t look as adorable as this sweet ‘snowman building’ cutie. Maybe I need an owl hat.

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Because here’s the thing. As much as we’d love to just hibernate inside during the cold winter months..um, the cold winter months go on for about five months in Minnesota. So we just dress warmly and throw the kids outside to play. Sometimes I join them and sometimes I admit to sipping my hot tea and waving to them from the kitchen window as they play outside and become partially frozen in the snow.

Oh that is so not true and I admit I LOVE winter. I love skating and skiing and sledding and building snowmen. Also I do like hot tea.

We even spent the day on Christmas tubing with the kids. I want our kids to enjoy the cold and snow just as much as they love running around in the grass barefoot in the summer. Snow and cold is our reality here in Minnesota – so dang if we won’t get out there and enjoy it.

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Now our living room and entry way looks like an outdoor store blew-up because of the mountains of gear – but it’s totally worth the fuss to help us enjoy the cold.

But probably nobody is enjoying -16. Except crazy runners like myself.

The one thing we can all agree on during the cold winter months though is having something hot and filling to eat once we come inside!

What’s your favorite meal to curl up with on a cold, snowy day? The Wisest Kid knows that kids across the country appreciate a steaming bowl of Campbell’s Condensed Tomato Soup and love dipping their favorite dunkables. What snack do your kids like to pair with their soup? Crackers? Pretzels? Or the classic grilled cheese?

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Letting Go

December 14, 2013 by Tracy 15 Comments

I’m writing this at 11pm because we got home so late from Starbucks. I brought all three kids to Starbucks at 9:30pm for hot cocoa and croissants. And maybe a Cranberry Bliss Bar for me to go with my non-fat latte with an extra shot of espresso. Does anyone else want to spell ‘espresso’ with an ‘x’ – ‘expresso!’

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This may also explain why I’m not tired.

I wondered how many people looked at us and thought “WTF” as we entered the coffee shop. This mom taking her kids…including a FOUR YEAR OLD…out for cocoa this late. Two hours past their bedtime. And trust me, not too many years ago I’d be giving you the nasty glance over my grande latte for doing something like this with your kids.

But now I say COCOA FOR EVERYONE AT ANYTIME!

Because I need to let things go.

We’re having a crazy weekend as are you I’m sure. From plays to programs to shopping to parties to baking to wrapping to trying to shovel up and out all of the stuff that accumulates with the holiday season. So I’m doing things that I’d never do – like taking kids for cocoa at 9:30pm and last night at 10:30pm you would’ve seen me at the grocery store buying cupcake ingredients with Eloise. Eloise even said “Whoa grocery stores are kind of spooky this late at time!”

Then I had to stay up late dealing with an issue over some panda stuffed animals that arrived wrong for Eloise’s birthday party this weekend…which of course cannot be fixed at midnight or within 24 hours…so I woke the kids by 6:30 this morning so we could run to the mall by 8am to buy PANDAS. ALLTHEPANDAS. Even though we probably could’ve just skipped the pandas.

BUT WE CANNOT SKIP THE PANDAS! The birthday party would suck without pandas(in my mind).

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And we still haven’t gotten our tree. I played a joke on the kids and bought a $4 tabletop pink tree and told them that this was really our tree this year and I think I made them cry. And I was totally kidding. So we must get a tree this week. Kids crying over a tree does not smell of Christmas cheer. We tried today – but somehow a time never stuck for all five of us to go. Maybe we are reaching the point in our lives that it’s okay to just go with three or four people to grab a tree. Tomorrow maybe? But first we have to frost the cupcakes and have Eloise’s birthday party. And I like to clean before the tree comes in.

Do I have time to clean tomorrow?

I’m finding right now that I cannot plan for anything. Maybe I just need to let go and breathe in and let things fall as they will.

Like seeing Santa without planning on it. We walked by the Jolly Old Elf at the mall on Friday. We were at the mall because we needed so many things for this weekend and for gifts that needed to be shipped to arrive before Christmas. When we saw him Astrid immediately said “I’d like to talk to him.” So she did. She gave him a hug and chatted with him for quite awhile.

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Astrid is interesting that way – last year she would not even step in the room where Santa sat. This year she needed to talk to him. That’s the thing about Astrid – the girl knows what she wants and when she wants and when she makes up her mind about something – it will not be changed.

Also she still wants a talking scale.

And we’ve crossed something off our lists.

Our holiday cards have arrived. Need to buy stamps – now on my to-do list.

Jed is home and is okay. Tired. Concerned. But okay. Thank you for your kind words from the interwebs.

Life is uncertain – from wanting to see Santa, a visit to the ER, an impromptu trip to Starbucks, or whether your kids will get your jokes. I need to remember this lesson of living with the beauty of an uncertain yet still very blessed life. Because while I cannot control what will happen each day, I can remember to just let the moments take us where they may.

And be comforted by the small moments of each crazy day that make cocoa at 9:30pm sometimes feel like the most normal thing we can do at the time.

I Believe In Magic

December 5, 2013 by Tracy 31 Comments

“Mommy, I think I’m ready to talk to Santa this year.” Astrid says very quietly one evening after dinner when all of us still gather around the dining room table doing homework, writing, paying bills, and if you are only four years old – coloring.

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“I mean, I will talk to him – but I’ll be standing next to him. Not on his lap. I don’t want to touch him. But I’ll say hi maybe and tell him my name. I want to tell him that I only want a talking scale this year just like the one in Costa Rica so it will yell out “31.2 pounds” all day every day if I want it to. I need to tell him about the scale so I get it. That’s the only thing on my list.”

“Maybe it’s a good idea for all three of you to get your Santa lists ready!” I suggest after Astrid’s announcement that she is “Santa-talk ready” this year. “I’ll make reservations for us to visit him this Saturday.

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Eloise looks up from her algebra – stopping mid-problem that has something to do with coefficients and rises and runs and things I no longer understand – and says “Yeah okay Mom, let me get right on that. Ha!”

“Ha!?!” I stand and hold my hands up to my heart as if shot and take a deep breath in before responding with a “Santa is watching and he heard what you just said!”

“Oh, okay Mom. Let me just get right to that list after I finish my algebra and type-up my endangered animal study paper….”

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I look to Astrid and Esther who have already gotten out plain paper, red markers and stickers and are happily making Santa Lists.

And I sit back down hard as I realize she no longer believes. And the hurt takes me by surprise.

I mean she’s 11 and all – and maybe you’re thinking “Geesh, it’s about time!” Because maybe that’s what I was thinking a few years back when at eight and nine she still did believe while I figured the whole ‘Santa’ thing out by the time I was five.

I continue to sit quietly at the table and glance over my coffee and then I meet Eloise’s eyes. She gives me a quick, small knowing smile and wink before getting back to her work.

And I cannot help from almost crying as our eyes meet because I know she gets it. Because even though she may no longer believe in the actual Big Man himself, she still gets the magic of the season and the importance to not give her new found knowledge away to her little sisters.

Later that night she hands me her Santa List – which even starts with “Dear, Santa” and ends with “Love, Eloise” – and as she hands it over to me she says “You know just in case you’d like to know what’s on my list too.”

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I smile as she walks away and heads up to bed. I carefully unfold her letter and read the first two items on her list…

-I would like to raise at least $100 to adopt a Panda from WWF to help stop their endangerment.

-I would like Astrid to get the talking scale she wants

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And I know that she still believes in magic because she continues to wish for very good things.

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Do you have a Holiday outfit planned for your little girl for Christmas? I was thrilled to receive the Twinkle Party Dress and matching dress for Bitty Baby from American Girl to review. Astrid pretty much doesn’t go anywhere without her ‘Baby Anna’ and now they can match when we have breakfast with Santa this weekend. And they can ask for the scale together! In fact Astrid has refused to take her party dress off for the past three days because she feels like a ‘special princess’ and has told me that ‘Baby Anna’ will never wear anything BUT her fancy red dress. So there you go. They love their matching dresses and I about died from the cute. I think Santa will be equally impressed this weekend and now we don’t have to stress about what to wear on Christmas eve.

If you haven’t purchased your Holiday Dress yet and you have a little one who loves AG – I for sure recommend these cute sets! I am a HUGE fan of American Girl as you know – for celebrating girls and sending a positive message to our kids…so having these special dresses for Astrid and ‘Baby Anna’ is just a bit of sweet icing on the cake for us.

Renting A House In Nosara Costa Rica

December 3, 2013 by Tracy 15 Comments

We’ve always done an all-inclusive vacation when we’ve traveled to the beach. It’s just made things easier as a family as we have small children. An all-inclusive resort gives you food ALL DAY LONG, a clean room everyday, no need to carry money, daily activities, no need for a car, and pretty much you can check you brain at the airport and just enjoy a stress-free week of fun and sun and no worries. Which is why we’ve always done all-inclusive vacations. Who wants to think about allthethings on vacation??? Also, who wants to COOK? Or do laundry? Or clean? Or grocery shop? Or find SNACKS??

Well we decided to rent a house instead during our vacation to Costa Rica - and I’ll admit I was a little leery about our choice. Because cooking. And laundry. And mama wasn’t about to lose beach time to head back to the house to strap on an apron to fry-up anything in a pan!

We found our rental house through VRBO.com – we had great luck with ‘Vacation Rentals By Owner” before for a trip to New York City and South Padre Island – so I did a search and found what I knew would be the perfect place for us.

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We rented a ‘multi-unit’ house in Playa Guiones called Villa Belitza. It is amazing. It sleeps 12(in my opinion 10 privately and comfortably) and has three separate units for more privacy and peace if some like to go to bed a bit earlier(or if you have little kids). My parents joined us, so the set-up was perfect. The house has an amazing and private pool in the back set right into the jungle and we spent our afternoons lounging here. There is tons of seating outside and we took every meal outdoors. There’s a grill and bar area and the grounds are immaculate. The house amenities give you all the comforts of home – well appointed kitchens, comfortable king-sized beds, modern bathrooms and everything is so clean and new! The owner and the caretaker were very responsive to all emails and inquiries and so easy to work with too.

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The best part is that the house is ‘beach-front’ with a private path through the jungle to the waves, which is nearly impossible to find in the Nosara area. One things we loved the most about the Nosara area is that there are no high-rises, major developments, and there is no building allowed within 200 meters of the beach. When you are on the beach you look back and see just sand and jungle. It’s so quiet and peaceful here with just a few families, surfers and yoga-lovers. It doesn’t have the crazy pace of some of the more popular spots in Costa Rica. It’s still so natural and laid back.

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But the best part – as the one who cooks and does the majority of the cleaning typically – the house rental includes twice weekly cleaning and bed changing AND you can hire a cook for about $10 a meal – who will also do your grocery shopping. UM YES! Maria was fabulous and I wish we could’ve had her cook every night. It was such a treat to not have to worry about cooking and she made us a feast of local favorites each night she joined us. It felt like such a splurge – but it wasn’t – and it was so worth it.

The house we rented in the Nosara area was also made more affordable because we rented it during a ‘shoulder season.’ Peak season in the area – which is the dry season – starts the last week of November and goes until April. So we rented in what is still considered ‘value season’ which is the end of the wet season. Therefore our rental cost was less than HALF what you would pay in peak season. Our risk of paying less for maybe some rain really paid off as we had very little rain while we were there.

I’m not sure I would do an all-inclusive resort again after renting a house. Even after renting a car, buying groceries and having to do a bit of cooking ourselves, we spent much less in two weeks than we have for a one week vacation to Mexico to an all-inclusive, and MUCH less than we would’ve spent at Disney for just 5-7 days…and we did so much more! And because we had to shop and explore more – we experienced so much more culture and visited more local places. I’m not sure I could just hang at a resort for seven days again.

If you head to Nosara, Costa Rica – check out a house rental(especially Villa Belitza) – but give us first dibs as we are for sure heading back!

Do you prefer all-inclusive resorts or do you love to rent a house and explore on your own?

I promise I only have ONE more post about our trip to Costa Rica…and then I will retire as a travel blogger and go back to talking about boring stuff like motherhood and shopping. And my cat. …In the meantime you can read more about our trip to Costa Rica by clicking on the links below…

The animals of Costa Rica and ENTER TO WIN a year subscription to National Geographic Kids Magazine!

Just The Beginning

Me learning to surf

Kids Learning To Surf

Why we chose Costa Rica

Nosara Canopy Zip Line Tour

Days 1/2

Days 3/4

Transitioning Home

Canopy Tour In Nosara Costa Rica

November 19, 2013 by Tracy 10 Comments

I used to love fast and scary rides. When I was a kid you could not pry me away from the the biggest roller coasters at amusement parks. As a young adult I sky-dived over the beaches in California and believed in big adventures. As I’ve gotten older(and became a mother) I’ve become more cautious and maybe my equilibrium has changed as now I find my feet more firmly planted on the ground. Seriously, I sound like a major boring yawn. Okay, I’m not that bad. But maybe I close my eyes on rides now.

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But one adventure I’ve never taken is a zip-line tour. And not just a simple and small zip line in The States. I mean a full jungle canopy tour in Costa Rica. No matter that my now, somewhat responsible and cautious motherly nature, I needed to take this adventure. Maybe my kids made me. And even my dad(at 69 years old) came along for the ride.

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We took a three hour morning canopy zip-line tour with Miss Sky Canopy Tours in Nosara, Costa Rica. It is the LONGEST canopy tour in the world. We traversed almost four miles of lines and went over 20 miles per hour! There were 12 lines in all and we made an amazing stop and hike to swim at a waterfall. After the first line(because OMG what was I doing. And YES I closed my eyes), it was incredible. The feeling of flying was unsurpassed and you would not believe the views of the canyons, the rivers, the jungle and the wildlife. What made Miss Sky so cool is that you don’t travel between platforms – you actually go from mountaintop to mountaintop. The engineer in me kept asking them question after question on how something this magnificent was even planned and made.

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Esther and Eloise loved it(Astrid was too young as you have to be five years old)! It was not cheap – but if you are going to splurge on ONE big and fun thing on your visit to Costa Rica – you MUST take a canopy tour. I would highly recommend this family fun activity to really get into the jungle and explore more of Costa Rica. It was super safe – and they have a double line system and the kids were always with an adult. The guides at Miss Sky were fabulous and fun and during our hikes and tour as they also taught us all about the different flora and fauna in the area. My kids can now name many trees and plants local to the area. It was so educational and I think the girls want to do this everyday. Maybe they need to work here when they are older.

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Have you ever been on a zip-line? If you come to Costa Rica this is a must-do activity!

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Here’s an amazing video of our canopy tour!

We are on a two week vacation to Nosara, Costa Rica…for more posts about a family vacation to Costa Rica, click below….

Learning To Surf

Why we chose Costa Rica

Days 1/2

Days 3/4

Costa Rica Days 1/2

November 10, 2013 by Tracy 15 Comments

Yesterday was a long day. It’s amazing when you are traveling though that a long day doesn’t feel like a very long day when you’re excited to be on vacation. I felt energized by 7pm instead of dragging and feeling like I was dying because of a 2am wake-up and twelve hours of traveling while herding children through planes trains and automobiles to get to Costa Rica.

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Even though we had a very early 5am flight from Minneapolis, we had a great flight schedule. An easy three hours to Houston, a 45 minute layover and another three hours to Liberia, Costa Rica. Both flights were easy and the time passed quickly with books and coloring and maybe one movie. The kids were great even though we really didn’t eat all day.

We decided to rent a car in Costa Rica. We are staying in the Nosara area which is about a 2 1/2 hour drive from the airport. We considered just getting a hired shuttle but we are now glad to have a car even though it’s a bit of a hassle to rent in Costa Rica. They have required liability insurance which makes it expensive – but I think our flexibility is well worth it even though Jed feels like he just signed his life away. Jed enjoyed driving our 12 passenger van even when the pavement turned to dirt, mud and potholes for the last half of our trip. Driving through the jungle was amazing as we approached the beaches.

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We have rented a large house right on the beach. It has three homes that all attach with a common pool in the center and a short path to the beach. We’ve rented all three homes for privacy and the girls pretty much haven’t left the pool. We have birds, huge butterflies and monkeys in the trees all around the house. It’s beautiful and the house is just perfect for us. We’ve hired a cook for our evening meals and we were welcomed last night with an amazing meal after our long journey. Having a cook feels like a luxury and worth the very inexpensive price to hire one here.

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It’s sunny in the mornings and rains in the afternoons. I ran at 5:30am shortly after sunrise and was surprised by the number of surfers already catching waves at Playa Guiones. We hit the beach to swim, body surf and collect shells by 8am so we could soak-up as much sun until the afternoon rains started. The beach is gorgeous and we had an amazing time. The ‘path’ to the beach is still a bit under water as the rainy season comes to an end – so it was more of a jungle trek which we all enjoyed. Tomorrow I will take some beach pictures.

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We spent the afternoon heading into the town proper of Nosara for grocery shopping and to scope-out the area. The kids enjoyed seeing some familiar foods(Lucky Charms) and seeing some new selections that are more local and special to Costa Rica. After our shopping excursion we swam in the pool(even during the warm rain) and played cards, napped and read. It was truly a perfect and relaxing day.

Which is our plan. We will do some adventuring – zip-lining, horseback riding and surf school…but mainly we just want to hang-out and enjoy some family time and relax and enjoy a new culture. So far we are just completely enjoying Costa Rica.

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Pura Vida.

Why We Are Not Going To Disney

November 8, 2013 by Tracy 18 Comments

I expected a different outcome. For example if you were to give your children three choices for dinner: 1. Pizza 2. Noodles or 3. Cow liver, you would expect a fight to ensue between them over the pizza vs. noodles while the cow liver option is not even discussed.

Because they are kids. Little kids still in many ways and some things make sense to them. Like Pizza. And Disney.

Last year we decided to make going on a family vacation a priority. My husband hates when I talk about this, but I’m putting it out there because nothing is his fault or my fault or anyone’s fault, it’s just how we’ve all made sacrifices to raise our family. We decided that I would stay home with the kids while Jed started his own business. Both decisions were risky – we lost our insurance, our steady and larger income and security – but we did it because we decided it was important for me to be home and we had a certain amount of confidence in Jed’s business. And that family time was more important than money. I still believe this. But things like family vacations have taken a hit.

For a few years not having a big getaway didn’t seem like a big deal, but eventually I could tell that both of us were feeling like a big part of us was missing. We were both travelers before kids. Heck, we met on a flight to Bangkok. And we know that one of the biggest gifts we can give our kids is the gift of showing them the world.

Knowing we could plan for one big trip and it would be awhile before we could do this again, we decided to make a budget and a plan and let the kids choose the vacation based on what we could afford. We have been talking to them about Disney, as we have never been, and the whole “Is it a requirement for kids to go to Disney as least once while they are little guilt” was heavy on my heart last year – so we decided to make that an option as well.

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So we sat the kids down last January and told them that we could take a big vacation and these were the options they got to choose from:

1. A week in Disney World

2. A week on a cruise(Maybe a Disney cruise even)

3. A week at an all inclusive resort in Mexico or the Caribbean.

4. A week in Europe(probably just Amsterdam and Paris) – but we may have to delay our trip until the following Spring.

5. Two weeks in Costa Rica at a rental house on the beach

I honestly expected three votes for Disney as we had talked about it so much and they’ve heard so many stories from friends about going there. And we would’ve been okay with their decision and maybe a door of guilt would finally close.

But not one of them yelled out Disney. All three said “COSTA RICA!”

And then we knew they were all really our children. Because they also choose sushi over pizza most days.

So we are heading to Costa Rica with the knowledge this means The Mouse is probably dead to us and we have all accepted that and moved on. Moved on to Costa Rica this year and maybe a safari in Africa in a few years and then maybe a trek to Nepal or Thailand- back to where we met and our family journey started. And along the way I want to show them my apartment in Amsterdam and the castle where we married in Scotland.

And start making some global memories for our family.

Because I know this is only the beginning.

Halloween Changes, Tweens and Foxes

November 2, 2013 by Tracy 19 Comments

You might find something(someone) missing in these photos. I’m calling this phase of our lives “The Tween Times.”

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But it’s hard to not smile at the adorable and cuddly panda bear and the fantastic yet fashionable fox. What does the fox say? It turns out our whole neighborhood is over 78 years old or doesn’t have internet access as not one person understood why Esther was asking that question after she said “Trick or Treat.” Also, they were stumped by what a fox really says.

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I’m glad my kids choose costumes that are warm so we can layer and stay cozy when it’s only 42 degrees on Halloween night. It’s better than having to put your snowsuit over your costume like I used to have to do.

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But still – I didn’t get a picture of Eloise this year. It’s weird and good and strange and okay when your child reaches the age when they would rather go with a friend…and thus leave an empty space in my photo lens. Eloise was Cat Girl and I’m sure she was fabulous. And her smile, stories and bag of a candy when she returned later than usual – at 9:30- told me that she had an amazing time. And I know she has many more years to celebrate Halloween with us. And maybe I just need to catch her in a picture at 3:30 before she goes with her friends. If she lets me. I’ll have to bribe her with an iPhone or something.

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I did not dress–up this year which was a huge disappointment to my kids. After Effie and The Pioneer Woman - it turns out that I peaked too early.

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If you loved our costumes but you are are still partying this weekend and need some costume ideas – well The Wisest Kid has you covered.

He’s also knows what kids love to eat – so that is never a mystery to us anymore.

Be sure check out the Campbell’s Facebook page to keep up to date with The Wisest Kid and find more kid approved recipes, get your own beard at the Wisest Kid’s Page at Campbell’s Kitchen.

Disclosure: This post is sponsored by Campbell’s Condensed Soup and I was compensated as an Ambassador, but all opinions are my own.

How To Speak Dog. I mean CAT #NGKInsider

October 30, 2013 by Tracy 6 Comments

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Our cat Truffle turned three last week so I tried to take birthday photos. To which he said “Are you kidding me?” Because it doesn’t matter how much you might think you can coerce a cat to still still and nicely for you – YOU CANNOT! Unless you drug them, which I totally would never do.

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I also don’t believe we will ever know what a cat is saying – because cats are more smart, savvy and cunning than us – which makes them an eternal mystery. And also adorable.

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And who wants a predictable pet?

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Those crazy dog lovers, that’s who! Seriously, such an ‘easy to read’ animal. And it’s also why you need to get How To Speak Dog – another awesome book from National Geographic Kids.

How to Speak Dog is a fun, informative, and photographically driven book that helps kids understand what their dog is trying to tell them through body language and behavior. Super-engaging dog photography, along with National Geographic Kids’ signature bold and bouncy design, helps illustrate the key canine concepts. Quick-hit tip boxes, fun facts about mankind’s best friends, and informative sidebars from the experts enliven the text. Readers young and old will respond to the irresistible call of the canine in this delightful book that warms hearts and wag tails everywhere—a must-have in every home where pups are looking for love and understanding.

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We love the animal and pet books from National Geographic for our kids. These non-fiction wonders are entertaining while they are education and so fun to read and look at the pictures whether you’re 4 or 44.

And there’s probably not a How To Speak Cat book – because cats are too awesome to be interviewed. Or even look at you.

But if you love cats, dogs or just a good joke – check out National Geographic’s new Just Joking App – it’s a FREE app for kids and we’ve been having a ball with it this week. Here are some Halloween favorites to try on your kids tomorrow!

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Q: What happens when a ghost gets lost in fog? A: He is mist.
Q: Why did Dracula become a vegetarian? A: Because his doctor told him “stake” was bad for his heart.
Q: What is a monster’s favorite place to swim? A: Lake Erie.
Q: How do you fix a broken jack-o’-lantern? A: With a pumpkin patch.
Q: What did one ghost say to the other ghost? A: “Get a life!”
Knock, knock. Who’s there? Zombies. Zombies who? Zombies make honey and zombies dont’
Q: Why don’t mummies go on vacation? A: They’re afraid they might unwind.

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Disclosure: I’m a National Geographic Kids Insider – and I love taking you inside the Yellow Boarder for fun activities for your families. I am not paid for my time with them – I just love them. And cats.

Breaking News

October 28, 2013 by Tracy 11 Comments

“Dude, the lady who just blew by us is like older than my f*ck*ng mom!!!”

That’s what I heard at about mile 11 when I did blow by two young and adorable men who were hurting by that time as they went out too fast.

And I should’ve turned around and yelled “DAMN STRAIGHT – EAT MY DUST BOYS!” But I just giggled and kept on sprinting.

I ran a half-marathon on Saturday but have no idea what my real time was as there was a chip failure which has caused about 7000 people to be pretty bummed out. But based on my finish time and how long it took me to cross the start – I think I did about a 1:54 – which is acceptable but not a PR for me. Well, a PR since I hit 40 years old – but back in my early 30s I could do a 1:42. I had also forgotten how easy a half feels after a full. I started out slow and comfortable and wisely lined up with the 9:30 people and had a very fun race. But by mile 8 I was bored and had a lot left in me so I sped up. And by mile 10 I passed the 2 hour pacer pack and did yell at the pacer holding the sign that he better not catch me. And I kept increasing my speed and passed the 1:55 pacer by mile 12. And also several young men in their 20s. Also I passed six Supermen, four pigs, 15 Waldos, and a few zombies.

Did I mention I was also running in costume? Watching nearly 7000 adults wearing Halloween costumes while running 13 miles is bound to bring a smile to the crowds along the way.

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But I was still bummed out that these young men saw me as older than their mom. I assume this means I will never get carded again. But 12 hours later and some good lighting(DARK) and lots of make-up and a few glasses of wine can make you look pretty much okay. And everyone is smiling at a wedding. And I don’t mind looking like a mom in a nice dress. I mean, at least I don’t have a gray beard.

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(A night out to celebrate Vikki and Luisa’s wedding!)

But after a night of looking pretty and not feeling so mom-like but actually young and fun-like(even though getting home by 11pm sounds awesome no matter what), when you have to wake at 5am the next morning to be on the news and you have to be in make-up and a dress that looks pressed – well things go downhill pretty quickly.

Here’s a segment I did for a local news station here VERY EARLY ON SUNDAY MORNING. Watch with a friend and make it a drinking game. Drink when I say the word “SUPER!” and I promise you’ll be drunk before my 4 minute segment is over.

SUPER!

Old School Blogging – Five Favorite Blogs

October 9, 2013 by Tracy 27 Comments

I’ve been blogging for nearly six years – which is like 1200 years on the internet. My cat turns three tomorrow so I was just trying to find his approximate human age because my kids wanted to know and I didn’t have the heart to tell them that he’s actually like 30 – because when you are an eight year old girl – it’s really more fun to play with a 3 year old than a 30 year old man. Because a 30 year old who is not your dad is kind of creepy. Anyway, it just made me think of how to calculate internet years because technology moves so fast. Speaking of – did I tell you my mom joined Facebook? Thank god, as emailing her pictures was getting old. Especially since she doesn’t text. So pretty soon I assume she will set-up her own blog.

Oh my gosh – I was making cupcakes for the cat’s birthday – but if he’s really 30, will cupcakes be lame?

When I first started blogging – okay no..When I realized that I wasn’t the only blogger out there and found out that actual other blogs that existed.. AND found blogs that were better than mine(bitches), it made me want to do a few things…1. Quit blogging because everyone else was just too awesome, 2. Get to know them better and 3. Read them and share them and become BFFs! Whenever someone asks me “What should I do when I start blogging if I want to grow my blog?” I say “Read other blogs and make friends!”

So that is why today, with my sweet friend Elaine from The Miss-Elaine-ous Life, we are celebrating other bloggers with “Old School Blogging!” I am going to share five of my favorite blogs and we would love for you to do the same – write a post to share some blog love and come back here and link-up with us over the next week or so and find some more blogs to read, love, and perhaps stalk. No, don’t stalk – that’s creepy. Like old-man-cats.

Five Of My Favorite Blogs...and there are SOOO many more – but these are my can’t miss each day…

Kelcey of The Mama Bird Diaries. Kelcey is my go-to blog for both humor and heart. What I love the most about Kelcey though is she takes the most ordinary part of a day and makes it into a fabulous, funny and story that you can relate to. That is what really good blogging is in my opinion…not a essay about a feeling or a theme that has been written a gazillion times – give me a snapshot into your day with such a brilliant spin that I check back tomorrow for more. Kelcey is brilliant..and also gorgeous..and an amazing mom of five kids.

Stacey of Any Mommy Out There. Oh Stacey. What can I say about Stacey…She’s the writer I will be in my next life. She also takes simple daily happenings and tells her stories with such prose that she makes me weep, laugh and cheer all in one paragraph. I admit that sometimes I just sit and refresh her blog hoping she writes something new – like 80 times per day. Also, we roomed together at BlogHer so I’ve seen her in her underwear and that wasn’t unpleasant. Hee.

Alison of Writing, Wishing. Oh Alison. I can’t cover Alison in just 2-3 sentences? I can’t. Alison is a talented storyteller, amazing mom, savvy businesswoman, one of the most supportive people on the internet, and…my friend. One of my dearest friends. I love her. And someday we will meet somewhere between Malaysia and Minnesota. If you read just one blog and get to know just one person in this crazy blogging space – make it Alison. Trust me on this one.

Michelle of Scenes From The Wild. I will always put Michelle on my list of favorite blogs. She was the first blog that I read – before I really even understood what a blog was..and I will always read her. Michelle is a gifted writer, photographer, mother, leader, has a brilliant mind and she makes me want to be a better person. She’s also gorgeous, has six amazing children, and she lives her faith every single day. I love her for everything she is and isn’t and I think that sometimes she loves me for being her very irreverent friend.

Vikki of Up Popped A Fox. Vikki and I met through Listen To Your Mother and I find we have a lot in common with our love of words, urban living, explicit lyrics, raising kids around the same age, and the same birth year. Vikki writes from her heart with a twist of humor and she keeps me coming back for more stories. Vikki is just real and she makes me think and laugh or cry in nearly every post. Also, she has great hair.

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And now it’s YOUR TURN! Write a post and give some love to five of your favorite blogs and come back and link-up with us as we do some Old School Blogging!

10 Tips For Moms For Running And Finishing A Marathon

October 7, 2013 by Tracy 26 Comments

Let me just say that I’m about the last person to be giving you advice. Me, the lady with the doubts and the nervous stomach who hasn’t run a marathon herself in over a decade.

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But I finished the Twin Cities Marathon this weekend. And today, I registered for another marathon …and four more half-marathons.

Because I’m hooked again. After 11 years of motherhood and focusing on just that…and almost only that…which is wonderful. But now I’m doing something for me…

So here’s what I learned over the past four months as I trained and juggled family time and cleaning the bathroom and working, and ran my first marathon in many, many years – and some are serious, and some are not – but I’m hoping that maybe they will help you get to the finish line…Because as mothers we deserve four or so hours of ‘me’ time now and then.

10 Tips For Moms For Running And Finishing A Marathon

1. Set realistic goals. I used to run sub-four hour marathons. But I knew from my training that I would not be running that time on Sunday. My training told me that my time would be about 4:15-4:30. And I finished at 4:26. Yes, my slowest time ever – but I finished exactly how I trained. And train how you feel comfortable. Don’t get injured in your training. Listen to your body. You’re busy – you’ve also got a job, kids, laundry, dinner, dishes, mopping and allthethings – focus on what you can focus on and put the time into what you can.

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2. And in saying that – make time to train. I know I was crazy and did my long runs at 3am..but it’s because I put my family first and don’t want to carve out time away from my kids. So I run when my kids sleep.

3. Trust your training. I doubted myself big-time, but I trained hard for four months and knew my body and mind would carry me through. Know that you are ready.

4. Don’t worry about not having the most fabulous, hi-tech clothing. Yes – spend money on good shoes – but who cares what you wear – even wicking crap gets wet. Dress for the weather, dress comfortably, and dress in something crazy if it makes your family find you easier. And don’t forget a cute headband. And maybe one day they will invent make-up that lasts through 26 miles – but until they do…skip the mascara. Everyone looks like a half-dead zombie when the marathon is over.

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5. Listen to music. Now, this goes against everything I’ve ever done. I’ve been such a purist and no-music-runner for so many years. But I gotta tell you – at mile 22 and the lowest of my low a little Low by Flo-Rida kept me going. The race is long. The music made it so much shorter. And I had all songs with super-explicit lyrics that I would never let my kids listen to.

6. Pack light and smart. I know as moms we tend to over-pack for everything and our purses are a pit that holds enough to sustain a family for about five days…but don’t bring all of that with you. I only brought some gels with me. And Jed brought me more at mile 21 in case I was running out. So bring some fuel. The only other items I could’ve used was kleenex as I really suck at the farmer nose blow thing and honestly I don’t want my kids to think it’s okay to do that. So I need kleenex for the nose.

Why I should not let Jed take pictures…

7. Enjoy the crowds! Thank them! Give each and every kid you can a high-five if they’ve got their hands out there. I swear using the energy from the spectators gives you that extra kick to keep going. Be the mom on the course and also tell your fellow runners how awesome they are as you pass them and leave them in the dust. And hand out gummy bears.

My arms look scary – don’t hug those kids!

8. Know where your people are going to be..and have people. We made a plan ahead of time for where Jed and the kids would be – so I had something to look forward to – and seeing them at miles 5,12,21 and the finish line is what kept me going. And getting extra kisses and hugs along the way was better than any Powerade. I’ve never had my own ‘little-spectators’ before..and something about having a little voice yell out “You got this, MOM!” is certainly the best cheer I will ever hear. I admit I cried a few times because of THEM. I have people!

9. Relax. Remember that you aren’t going to win – and sure maybe you want a PR – but you know just remember to enjoy the race. It’s really just a four hour party. Run hard and run focused and run to finish – but remember to run to have fun too. Smile because frowning makes you look old…like this…

10. Dig deep. You know how when you have a baby and the last few moments before the kid is out you think that you cannot do this for one more second? And that you will never do this again? Yeah, men have no idea what pain is. Muscle cramping and thinking you’re going to collapse on the road at mile 23 has NOTHING on childbirth. You’re a mom – you’ve made miracles and no amount of pain will ever compare. So remember that and dig deep to get past those last few miles because trust me, as soon as you cross the finish line you’re going to be signing up to do it again.

One Happy Mom, Two Happy Kids, One Tween With Attitude = perfection.

Because the prize is so worth it. YOU GOT THIS!