I’ll tell you what makes you know. you feel. you be. a mother.
It’s taking a solo vacation with your kids.
I always used to say that taking a vacation with kids is not really a vacation..it’s just parenting on location.
And it’s so true.
I also admit that I’ve taken vacations with my kids that I haven’t enjoyed. It’s been work and truthfully more work than being on home because you don’t have all the stuff you need in this new location that you need to parent and sooth and nourish and it’s frankly just exhausting. A vacation for no one.
And now after 10 years of parenting I think I’ve finally just let all of that stuff go and realized that this is my reality and I can either continue to fight that reality and accept that vacations just aren’t going to be what they once were, and appreciate the small vacation wins that I can.
Because you know what. I am a parent. And damn if it isn’t that most important thing I will ever do with my life. And by damn I love that. I LOVE BEING A PARENT. With every once of my being.
And so I won’t sunbathe with a margarita while reading my book. I will be in the pool with my kids and sitting at the edge of the pee-infested baby pool because that is what parents do.
And I will make sandcastles and refill buckets until I feel like tossing the bucket into the ocean. Because that is what parents do.
And I will carry kids across hot sand while burning my own feet. Because that is what parents do.
And I will teach my girls the art of just hiking the crotch of their one piece swimsuits to the side so they can pee without taking their whole swimsuit off. Because these are life skills that my girls need. When they are in college they will thank me and I know I’ve done my job well. Because by damn that is what a parent does.